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screenagers culture shock


Usually  I have different cultures in mind -in the sense of nationality and background-when I’m writing about differences between cultures; how to acknowledge them, accept them and FeelGood with them. That’s my field of expertise.
Today I want to share another kind of differences and background, culture with you. 
The differences between older and younger generations. 
I’m not a pediatrician but as a mother of 4 children I feel like an experienced expert.
 My children grew up in all kind of different countries and with different schooling systems so I think I’ve got some divers comparison.

Although our children live in the same environment as we do, they have a totally different background end experiences then older people have. Because of the fast changing technology and possibilities more than ever.
As parents we can’t rely on experiences of our own youth anymore. Internet and globalization have changed our whole environment and not many things are the same anymore. While in the previous times people could rely on generations of experience in ways of education.

Because of all those differences I find that a lot of older people are condemning the youth and the way they deal with their society.
For example, all the negativity older generations have about how youth use their screentime.
“They’re always staring at their screens!” 
There are a lot of biases about the use of all different devices.

Nowadays Work/study is mostly done behind…. a screen; recreation, by playing games, watching television or reading is done ……..behind a screen; listening -even making music- can be done….. behind a screen; Social contacts….. behind a screen, organising your life-…….
Older generations grew up with a distinction and a clear balance in time and location between work/study, recreation and socializing. 
This distinction now is almost gone.
It’s a bit hypocrite to blame the youth for this. They just don’t grow up with that ‘good old fashioned’ distinction and balance. They’ve got a complete different frame of reference, a complete different reality of work/study, recreation and socializing.

I think it’s useless to condemn these new technologies as -be honest- we all use them more than we would like. 
And would you like to go back in time?? Not me! I love being able to show and share my photoos, have conversations with friends all over the world, watching my series while running in the gym, having my books with me without carrying all those kilo’s and killing trees for paper, Finding answers for all my questions. 
This is the ‘screenage’!

It’s like all culture shocks; deep personal values, believes and convictions are shown, we have to acknowledge and accept that and make it our own.
A lot of our values and convictions have to change to accept this new age.
People are not very good in changing values and believes. But we have to! We as parents have to guide our youth in this new age.
And it’s a big guess what’s the right thing to do as we have no similar experience or examples.
I’m honest about this to my children, I’ve got no clue. But I know the basic needs of every human. physical and mental health. So they must have physic exercise, even if they use an app for a training schedule, watching tv, or listening to music.
It’s the mental health I do worry about. The fact that there’s no distinction or balance anymore. Not only because the possibilities to focus are less but also to give the brain a rest.
The reaction of my child: “Oh mama, but I’ve got an app for meditation and yoga which teach me to meditate”….
Do trust our youth that our youth are good humans, the way how, is up to them, we can only keep in contact and guide them.


What’s society so afraid of?


Have you ever been afraid? really feared for your existance; your life, your way off living? Well, I have. And it makes you shrink, your body, your brain, everything stops and you want to crawl back into a save place, and shut the door and window for everything. All creative thinking of how to solve a situation and a problem seem to have vanished into thin air.
Fear stinks, literally. Animals with a good sense of smell can be agressive when they smell fear, to protect themself and their flock/family.

Basically, fear is a healthy emotion when people feel threatened or endangered. The energy, emotions tend to produce, make it possible to react; freeze, run or attack.

When I look to western societies, nowadays, I see and smell fear.
I’m wondering what people fear so much?
There’s not a realistic life threatening fear, a fear the only solution is to run from it.
But what causes the fear that people want to close borders and shut themselves of from groups which made them stronger?
Is it fear for the continuity of their way of life?
Why people close their minds, their hearts, their houses, their borders.
A step further will be agression, as some people believe that attack is the best defence (very much a basic animal instinct, which people should be outgrown after 10.000.000 years).

I think it must have something to do with an invasion of influences that are threatening a away of live materialistic and inmatelerialistic (as; thoughts/ believes/ convictions/values of good and bad.)
The recession in a big part of the world
of the past 10 years have made many people uncertain and fearsome for their income, financial safety and the possibilties to maintain their way of live. 
In social democratic societies as in western europe, people saw how their social security (retirement, health care, education, right of income) was decreasing or getting very expensive. They saw how their values, as liberty and equality, meant that they had to share with even less fortunate. (It’s easier to blame those poor soles then reconsider your values).

“The more you’ve got the more you’ve got to lose”
That counts specially for the aging population of western europe, plus the older people get the more fearsome they are.

Because of globalisation you see that different thoughts/believes/convictions/values traditions and behaviour invade everyday live, and threaten peoples own original thoughts/believes/convictions/values/traditions/behaviour and cultural heritage.

A healthy and wise response to the emotion fear (very short) is to acknowledge the emotion fear, then you can research what it is exactly that makes you so afraid and think of a way how to handle it.
Societies are in someways just big bodies and should react the same -grown up- reaction as a normal human body.