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mistakes, bloopers and shame

One of my best birthdays was on a boring night, I didn’t have the money for a real party but it was a good reason to come together with some friends. At a certain moment we came to talk about our mistakes, bloopers, blunders and situations which were embarrassing and humiliating. It was hilarious, it was almost a competition in who’d made the biggest blooper. Besides the tremendous laughing it was healing; “These people loved me despite my mistakes, NO, these people loved me because of my mistakes”.

Afterwards I can even say that it helped me, it helped me to put my mistakes and embarrassing feelings into words. Because of the words I could analyse what went wrong and why and how I could avoid it or solve it.

But please do help me think. What is a mistake or an error? -I’ve tried definitions in a couple different languages, the best one was –The outcome of a situation which deviate from the expected/ desirable outcome.-
A Blooper is more serious according to the dictionaries; A blooper is a mistake with consequences for the concerning partie(s).
In both definitions the consequences or outcome are subjective; except for some scientific truths, like the world is round and 1+1=2, the outcome is depending on what people expect.

Anyway, a mistake or a blooper can make you feel ashamed, loss of pride or – face. In some cultures it even involves the whole family, clan or nation when a person makes a mistake.
Shame is an emotion, fear for the judgement of failing yours – or others expectations and fear for being unaccepted or even expelled. Guilt is also a judgement but that is much more legal. Shame is very subjective/ depending on the opinion of other people, so it depends on expectations of the person or the group he/she belongs to, that’s why shame is very much a cultural phenomenon.

That night, my friends didn’t have expectations and that’s probably why it was okay and even so much fun; I felt so happy and relaxed.
The best thing I’d learn, was that I’m not a mistake but I make mistakes, and that everybody makes mistakes and we learn from them by falling and getting up again and it’s very nice to have a hand to help you up instead of yelling how stupid it is to fall.IFGAblogperson


Dopamine 1


When you do research about Feeling Good you can’t avoid the hormone ‘dopamine’. I decided that I must know something about dopamine before I write more about it and feeling good.

But I’m not a scientist, I’m so NOT a scientist! I’m much more interested in applying all knowledge and theories into use for daily live and make it understandable for everybody. Besides that, I’m a very visual thinker and when I can’t picture the information, you lost me. So please don’t expect a scientific blog about dopamine, I hope I can share with you what I think is interesting to know about dopamine.

Dopamine is a hormone, a hormon is a chemical made in different glands through the body and being transmitted via the bloodstream to stimulate and regulate organs and tissue in the body.  To make it visual -and probably a bit rude-, a hormone is the freight train who brings specific necessities (dopamine) from the production (glands) to a certain destination (organ) and your body is a network.  The hormone is then an ingredient for something in your body to survive. Like flour for a baker to make bread. In case of dopamine is that the way you feel. Neorotransmitters are doing kind of the same between but then between -you guessed it- neurons in the brains. Dopamine is made in the prefrontal brains.
My point is to let you know that hormones do have a big and necessary influence on your body, health and the way you feel.
It’s a science very much in development, with modern technology, scientist discover every day more about the importance of hormones.

Research has shown several things that stimulates the production of dopamine;

  • exercise; In relation to the production of dopamine it’s not only sports but also all kind of creative activities or jobs, as long you use your brain to make your body move.
  • Oxygen; What can I say about that? go outside and take a deep breath of fresh air, doesn’t need to be cold but not reused air either (airco). In some environments that might be harder than the other but I bet there’s a time of the day when you can take some deep breaths.
  • Certain foods; Foods with proteins, omega 3, almonds and guess what…….. pure chocolate (only 20 gr per day!)
  • I could not find information if hormones and in this case related to dopamine are depending on race. But I make an intelligent guess that every human needs glands, organs and hormons, maybe in different quantities but all the same. Which makes it very interesting for an International FeelGood Academy.

At least I like to think that when I take a deep breath it makes me feel good but also my unknown fellow human and that that is something we share. 


Sweet treats

Lollies, Meringues from France, Belgian praliné, Dutch syrup waffles, Arabian dried fruits, Tim Tams from Australia, churros from south America; Every where in the world where I’ve lived and travelled I’ve found sweet treats. A lot of chocolate, in an enormous amount of diversity; wrapped bars, pralinés, sprinkles on bread, in dairy; But also candy, pies, cakes, muffins, moshi, dried fruits etc. etc..

In all it’s diversity the taste sweet is -usually- not a punishment to eat and often a treat or a reward. When you eat sweets your brain makes the hormon dopamine which makes you feel good.

For a good start of the day, people from a lot of countries start with sweetend strong coffee, croisant with confiture/jam/jelly, bread with peanutbutter/sprinkles, pancakes, cereals or sweet fruits. Others have a reward after a hard days work is done; englisch tea time with scones, jam and clotted cream, in Gemany Kuchen. When I was a child I could have a sweet desert when I finished my diner (yes my parents survived the hunger winter in Europe).

But now in most prosperous societies sweets are not a treat or an award anymore, the huge availibility took of the exclusitvity of a sweet treat, which causes obesse and diabetic in many cases. It would be better if sweets would be regarded as a treat again rather then some sort of right.

For some people it seems that having a sweet treat makes them feel good in stead of something to celebrate that you feel good.

In many societies sweet treats are for sharing on special occasions like a birthday or just a little gesture to show somebody that you feel good with that person or that you acknowledge him or her.

So what about calling, 28th of September , international treats day and make it a yearly event? Let’s share some treats from your culture with people around you with whom you don’t mingle daily, just because of SWEET TREAT DAY?

Please share your ideas or comments so we can start an international new tradition.
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