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Cultural Intelligence

My Children are real global citizens, “where ever they lay their head that’s their home”. They’re raised multi-cultural, even more then I sometimes realise.
They are growing up fast now. They start to be young adults with all the ups and downs. I find it sometimes hard to let go and to admit that they’re intelligent personalities and do have good thoughts and ideas. I can learn a lot from them nowadays!

It were my children who -politely- tried to tell me that my goals for the International Feelgood Academy, (by sharing knowledge and experiences, learning to enjoy our differences) are not going to work . “ it was ‘soooooo Dutch’ to think that people from other cultures were going to share their thoughts about cultural sensitive topics with me; a white woman, even not a friend or family member.”
My children are absolutely right, I know -although I tend to forget it sometimes-. The knowledge that they were right discouraged me, I had a couple of experiences by hand myself that I’m ‘too Dutch’ as-well; My interest and curiosity in what/how and why other people moves is not being much appriciated. I’m too direct and open and expect that from others too.

A couple of years ago I had a chat with my Australian neighbour about something political -I can’t even remember what- but after that chat she obviously avoided me. Then I realised she must have been very uncomfortable about that specific chat. So I rang her doorbell (so she could not avoid me) and I told her how much I had enjoyed our chat and how much I appreciated her sharing her thoughts and ideas with me, I really learned something from that chat, it made my world a little bit bigger. It took her a while; she had to think about my approach to a discussion, in which we not naturally agreed about. She agreed with me hesitatingly, but we never had the same talks again. I was to afraid to loose also the small talks.

It depressed me for a while. Then again it were my children who convinced to keep on going 
“Mom, you see things, and with your experience and knowledge of human nature and different cultures you put cultural topics in a different perspective and give it a twist. Maybe people don’t join in the way you want to but you give people something to think about and raise some understanding.”
And that is actually where cultural intelligence is all about.IFGAblogperson


American elections Don’t click away; this is maybe the most intercultural Feel Good blog I wrote.

American elections

I never thought I’m going to write something about politics, elections, let alone the american elections. But from a multi cultural point of view I’m almost obliged to write something about the outcome of the American elections.

Truth is, I was shocked.
But why was I so shocked? First of all, I believe the president of America is mostly a representative job, the real work is done behind the scenes and it’s still a democratic country which means the president doesn’t make the decisions in the end. But what hit me most is that apparently the majority of American people think it’s okay to be represented by a man who knowingly insults/hurts people, who show’s no respect of other people’s feelings? Is this the chosen figure to represent Americain values?? Is this the big example to look up to??
Is this a world leader??

Is this a world leader?? Maybe not, maybe that’s why the average American choose for Trump, because they don’t want to be part of the world. Is it the same nationalism what caused Brexit? That idea shocks me even more. What makes people so afraid that they don’t want to be open? Look around? See possibilities? Enjoy differences rather than be afraid and close themselves up?

I asked myself why was I so shocked? A shock is a reaction on something unexpected/undesired; a very unwelcome surprise.
 I consider myself as a well read and educated woman, who tries hard to read or find out about the whole picture the pro’s and the con’s, the yin and yang, the 50 shades of grey. I don’t believe in “if you’re not with me, you’re against me” (that’s the reason why I’m not really into american politics) So with all the information I could find, I was convinced Clinton would win. I can’t say I like Clinton, but in the end using my rationalised brain, she seems the more intelligent option of -only two- choices.
I realise now my opinion was based on the information I could find which is dependent on the culture I live in. If I lived in another country/culture my opinion would probably turn out differently, because the themes the media would cover would be different and would be more to what people in that culture is interested in reading (=buying!!).

On Facebook I must have clicked once on a joke about Trump. It was a good joke but still a joke. From that moment I only saw Trump-jokes, no Clinton jokes, no positive actions from Trump, only the joke ones!! Somebody else must have done the same thing about a Clinton joke and haven’t seen anything positive about Clinton either.

I feel ashamed that -even I, who thinks to know how people’s minds in relation to culture works- did not see how the media, in the way it’s organised now, mislead us.
 Because in the end everybody everywhere will be more attracted to the kind of information they feel good with.
In my case it’s rational, but I realise that the value of that quality is also different for everybody else.

Learning this I admit, I’m very sad. because it’s my rational mind, who thinks that when people use their brains and open up their minds we can learn and enjoy our differences and live together happily after.
Can an institute as the International FeelGood Academy make difference??

#ashamed, # confusedIFGAblogperson.jpg



Scientificisch is not an existing word. I made it up. 
Let me explain, this is a personal story;

One of my children was struggling in school a lot, which was strange because he was absolutely an intelligent boy. Bit by bit, year by year, we learned that he was a very visual thinker. Which is hard in an educational system based on reading; For him books are a lot of letters combined, which don’t make any sense to him. When he couldn’t picture the information, he was lost and could not concentrate. He felt stupid.

One day, we were talking about the Trees family (family name in this case) from number 10, his brain send him to trees -> forrests -> Alaska -> bears -> hunters -> death bears. Suddenly we had a very angry boy and we’re all completely lost, because we couldn’t picture what he visualised.

We were lucky he had teachers who allowed him to use audio books combined with a real book. From that moment the words he heard and read were making sense he could picture it and he was hooked. Because of the experience with all the words and language he also started reading normal, without audio and is doing pretty well now.

A visual learning will learn the concept of what’s being read or taught, They will think and learn much faster, because pictures contain much more information in an eyesight than words and definitions can ever do; A one second look at a picture gives you more information then words can ever do.

I struggled all the way through high school and I only made it because there were teachers who believed in me. 
Economics was my biggest frustration, I understood the principles and definitions very well, but when we had tests and we had to solve a problem I solved the problem by using and mixing all the definitions, and not by repeating the definitions. I like to think that when the economists used my tests, we would not have the economic crisis today.
 Anyway I didn’t make it to university because I didn’t fit in the teaching and testing methods. It’s very frustrating to have to work below your abilities. I educated my self in all different cultural and human topics in different cultures and education systems. 
Together, in the process with my son, I realised that I wasn’t stupid or dumb either and that the combination of all my gathered knowledge en experiences are worth to tell.
The things I write or tell in this blog are not scientific because I can’t recall how I got that theory/information or ideas because I visualised, mixed and matched all different, theories, experiences and information and formed my own theory. 
I call it


Liking, sharing, following is been apreciated for a real international scope.


holiday 1


Sorry, Sorry, sorry, I try to post regularly once a week and usually that works, no matter where I am. I choose places to stay with internet/wifi or be back in civilisation once a week at least. But it is holidays……. And all the internet/wifi you can find is being absorbed by my colleague tourists, and not only the young ones, although they are most easy to spot.

It was a bit shocking to discover, how much we are depending on wifi and the internet. I say ‘we’ because in this time it was for sure not only me, although when I miss it, I really need it and I get quiet frustrated when it doesn’t work the way I want it.

Even now as I’m writing this, very very, early in the morning, I’m not able to connect to the wifi. We’ve got a room at the end of the hallway…… I could go out of bed and sit under that wifi box, but we’re in the southern hemisphere and it’s winter here and it’s cold, COLD.

Sometimes I wish for the ‘old fashioned’ cable to plug-in and connect.

That shock, being out of your comfort zone is what holidays are meant for, for me. I love to see new landscapes, new cultures, new people. All my senses are open; the sounds (even the leaking toilet above us), the birds, the silence, the hustle of a mountain village in the morning; the smell, healthy mountain air, the exhaust fumes, wood fires, dusty plains; the views, ohhh those views, no dessert – no mountain range is the same; the colors, the blue of the ocean; Even how it feels, to be cold, really cold. I sleep so well -hidden under a few layers of covers with only my nose peeking out for a fresh breath-, unfortunately the bathroom in the morning is also cold and the warm water not reliable.

As a ‘people-culture’ freak I do love to see how other people live or what they consider a ‘normal’ live. The differences make me aware of myself, of my life, the things I’m used to and what I do appreciate, like a warm shower and WIFI.

PS 1 I had a warm shower, untill someone flushed the toilet, steamed the bathroom so much the bathroom was warm.

PS 2 Guess where I was. Leave a reply and maybe you win a nice souvenir from my trip.

“Let’s go for it”

Wauw, my first words for a blog. “Let’s go for it”, “Alahmdala”, “op hoop van zegen” just a few phrases in different languages (sorry for the spelling, don’t want to insult anybody but the words feel good) that tell the way I feel right now.

The idea of starting an community “International Feel Good Academy” ran through my mind for a long time. But there were always hurdles in the way to make it possible; 4 children, a dog, international moves and a husband running somewhere over this globe.
And just now I recognised “I’m getting old!!” I’m not slightly up-to-date with the new trends, possibilities and techniques,  as I thought I was “I’m old fashioned, I missed a whole generation or 2 while being a mother and world traveller”!
Where I embrace the internet as a source of getting information for a specific reason, the new generation has no reason to gather information as just by being informed and amused. Or in my simple old fashioned way of thinking a website, a blog (the online version of a column) were ways to promote the product or service you had to offer, You can imagine my surprise that in an on line course “how to make money of your blog” they suggested to sell something??????. The way to get to the goal has become the way itself. Blogging, social media, networking, keeping up it’s a day task without knowing what it might bring or pay off.

Anyway, it took me a while to recover from the shock. But in the meantime I also saw that my dreams about a world wide community, who could share and learn from each other in a positive and fun way was much more a possibility then ever before. Before anybody else would do the same I got myself a domain;, so far I understand, got my name registered on a blogpost  thing, was not to difficult either and it was very obvious how to write a post. (as you can see the result). It’s like putting on a bathing suit without knowing how to swim, buying a ticket for the pool and jump.

So here I’m standing in the pool, I’m not that big of a fool to jump in the deep, wanting to learn how to swim but my coach is young and speaks a language I don’t understand. “What’s the difference between my username, hostname email address?” I’m already lost.
In the meantime I’ve learned (shift, enter) and I uploaded a picture. “HA”